Evite-iquette

As one of the more plan oriented people in my social circles, I use evite a lot. I’d estimate that I send out over 30 evites per year, and I respond to somewhere around 90 or 100 per year, probably more. I couldn’t tell you what percentage of my responses are yes, no, or maybe, but I can tell you that I respond.

I never could understand what’s so difficult about responding to an evite. You get an email, you click on the link, and once you read about the event, the time, the date, the location, you click twice more – once to indicate your status, and one to submit it. It’s that simple. Do you realize that the creator of the evite can see that you’ve read it already?

But I-66, sometimes the evite is sent too far in advance for me to plan.

Really? Not only is that a ricockulous statement to begin with, since all you have to do is just put it on your calendar and then – POOF – instant plan, but you can just click maybe and then make a revision later. At least then you’re replying. Besides, isn’t “it’s too far in advance” just another way of saying “I’m waiting for something better to come along”?

Okay, but what if I just don’t want to go to something and can’t think of a good excuse to give in my “no” response?

Where does it say you have to explain why you can’t come to something? People don’t have to explain why they are coming, so why should you have to explain the negative? If you can’t come, that’s all the organizer has to know. Why complicate things?

I don’t mean to make it seem as though I hate evite, because that’s not the case. I think it’s much more convenient than the big email to everyone, and don’t get me started on the criminal misuse of “reply all.”

Evite-iquette

9 Responses

  1. I know what you mean, I did an evite for my 35th birthday party – yeah last party I will ever have celebrating my birthday – party is in two weeks, lots of people have viewed the invite but have yet rsvp – pet peeve…

    I love evite – if I had a house, I would have parties all the time using evite of course.

    Is this a legitimate 35th birthday? Or like, a 2nd 35th birthday?

  2. Ok, ok, I’ll start responding, sheesh.

    Yes! I’ve made a difference!

  3. People don’t bother to return pre-stamped, pre-addressed wedding RSVPs, why should e-mail be different?

    You don’t have to get up from your seat to respond to an evite. I think the whole walking to the mailbox thing is what gets people with RSVPs.

  4. As an unrepentant cruise director, I send out dozens of Evites a year. Most of my friends know well enough to respond “Maybe” if they aren’t sure if they can make it.

    People, you have to respond to invitations so the host can plan! It drives me nuts when I spend my hard-earned (and quite limited) cash on food for a bunch of no-shows, or run out of stuff because people couldn’t decide until the last minute whether they want to attend. Look, if you’re holding out for a better offer, you’re not really my friend and you’re welcome to find another activity for that evening. (Of course, after multiple invite flakes, people get dropped off my list.)

  5. PREACH! God, why can people not commit? Plans are comforting in this crazy world gone mad. Am I not good enough to say yes to?

    My friend Cinderella and I often talk about the tier system in friendships; Tier 1 (super close, kill someone for you friends… you should not have more than 4 or 5 or you are a needy bitch and you are kidding yourself that you are really that close), Tier 2 (the largest group of friends, good friends, but not must talk to on a daily basis) and Tier 3 (acquaintances). To me, evite will always tell you where you fall in another person’s tier system.

  6. I don’t think it is that hard. Drives me nuts that people can’t be bothered with a simple click. And they should thank you for your willingness to corral all of the souls to some interesting event. At least enough of a thank you for a yes/no/or maybe in return!

  7. I gave my father a dinner birthday party one year in a restaurant–a favorite place in his crowd. Sent out the invitations..and it was a large group. Stamped return envelope. All they had to do was check “yes,” or “no,” that they were coming and check off one of three things they wanted for their dinner. I don’t even want to tell you of the weeks I spent calling people. In the end, 99 out of 100 came…but trust me…it was a misery to get the “yes,” out of them. The funny (meaning not) thing is….parties are expensive to give, even the simplest cocktail party, not to mention prep time to prepare the space, etc. I have no answers as to why people do this. I don’t think it’s any one thing in their case, but in the host’s case it is one thing on their end: rudeness endured, all in the name of celebration.

  8. no this is my first 35th dorkus or as I call it the 6th anniversary of my 29th birthday.

  9. I’ll give you a pat on the back just for the pure energy in this post.

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